Friday, August 9, 2013

Tough Guy Nearly Breaks

Meant to post this on Tuesday. It's been a busy week. Enjoy.


Tuesday: Tough Guy Nearly Breaks.

                “I don’t think I’ve been this sore and sweat this much since I stopped wrestling.” Those were some of my less explicit thoughts as I walked out of…wait for it…yoga class. What?! Yoga?! Are you kidding me?! Yeah I know what yawl are all saying out there. Yoga isn’t hard. You’re supposed to feel good and calm and one with nature and all that jazz. Maybe you’re thinking that I went to a Power Yoga class. Or maybe you’re just thinking, “Wow, that blind mountain climbing dude is really out of shape.” Now I’ll admit that I’d like to have a little less body fat and a bit more muscle. I’d love to jump on my bike and ride the Tour de France route without breaking a sweat. And I’d love to be a Navy Seal as well. (Maybe I can pass the eye test this time around…Hmm…)

                Ok. So why did I have some rather more colorful thoughts about a yoga class? For the last two nights, Kailee and I attended Bikram’s Yoga with her Dad. It’s not you’re normal yoga with stretching and meditation. It’s not power yoga where you powerfully flow from move to move and never take a break. Bikram’s Yoga is a series of 26 different yoga poses and the room is at 106 degrees Fahrenheit.


I like to think that I’m pretty athletic and in fairly decent shape. But I will say that out of any group exercise/mind body class that I’ve taken, this was the hardest one.

                So why am I writing about it. Well, it just so happens to flow nicely into what I wanted to talk about today regarding reaching our goals. What good is a goal if we don’t try to reach it. If we’ve set our goals right, then we should be striving for something that isn’t easily attainable. In other words, it’s hard to reach our goals. So how do we do it?

                Hate to break it to you folks, but there’s no magic formula. I watch infomercials for fun. And sometimes I just laugh outloud at the variety of “get rich quick,” and “get six pack abs in less than six weeks,” stuff that I see. Sure anyone can be wealthy, and I can draw up a training plan that will give you six pack abs no problem. But first you have to make a decision/choice.

                Ask yourself this question. How badly do I want to reach my goals? On a scale of 1-10, if you answer 7 or lower, set yourself some new goals and do some soul searching. 7/10=70% That’s barely passing in school. That’s average. If you want to be average then be my guest.

                You reach your goals by being above average. You reach your goals by “hard work and pain,”—to quote Filch from the first Harry Potter book.

                Maybe we don’t want to be in pain. But reaching your goals is going to take some sacrifice. I wrote down on my Monday blog post that my goals are to be employed by September, to ride 25 miles in 1 hour on the bike, and to eventually compete in a time trial. That’s not easy stuff.

                For my fellow recent college grads. You feel my pain on the first goal. So far I’ve submitted 60 plus applications and have had three interviews. I just passed my Earth/Space Science teacher’s examination, but I still have to apply to the state of Florida and wait to hear back from them until I can start applying for teaching jobs. Every morning I wake up, drink my coffee, have a little breakfast, sit down at my computer and start job searching. Right now career searching is my full-time job.

                Maybe in the afternoon Kailee and I will go to the gym, take Tyrone (my Seeing Eye dog) to the dog park to let him run, or even go to the torcher chamber known as Bikram’s Yoga Studio. (Ok it’s not a torcher chamber, but it is extremely tough.)

                The point is that I’m sacrificing time and effort to reach my goals. And if that means that Kailee and I can’t go to our favorite steakhouse or restaurant because we can’t afford it, or I have to suffer through 90 minutes of stifling heat and sweat, then I’ll do it if it means accomplishing my goals.

                My Dad always used to tell me, when I was younger, “Short term sacrifice for long term results.” I hated making sacrifices as a kid. But now I realize that the sacrifices I make will be way worth it in the long run.

                So my younger readers. You may hate doing homework, but—one day--trust me, you will thank your parents and teachers for giving it to you. I do every day. My competitive sports readers, I know that going to practice and off season conditioning really sucks. Trust me. I’ve been there. But I’ve also been at the point where I’ve seen the results from all that hard work. And finally, my readers that are older and wiser than me, keep trucking on. If you think you’re too old and it’s too late for you, or you’re set in your ways and you’re not changing, well you can change and you too can exceed your own expectations.

                So I’ll leave with this today. Can you reach your goals? Yes. Are you willing to make the sacrifices that are necessary to reach them? On your own piece of paper, white board, smart phone, IPad--or whatever devices people use nowadays—write down how much you want to reach your goals. Write down the sacrifices you’ll need to make it to the top.

                As my old tenth grade chemistry teacher, Vic Sciullo, used to say, “There’s no path of least resistance.”

 

Climb High.

 

Kyle

Monday, August 5, 2013

Monday Motivation: Setting My Goals


Monday Motivation: Setting My Goals



                Those of you that’ve read this blog before, follow me on FaceBook and Twitter, and who know me personally know that I talk a lot about setting a goal and sticking to it. I have several favorite goal setting quotes:

“There’s no crime in not reaching your goal; only in failing to set one.” –Ken Chertow

“Goals seem like false summits. You reach the top of one only to discover there’s another one a little higher.” –Erik Weihenmayer

These are probably my two favorite goal related quotes. Both have served me well through my young life thus far. I keep them handy in a document of motivational quotes that I look at every so often to get a little mental boost.

Goals serve a lot of purposes. They keep our mind focused while we push through the hard times. I scream from the mountaintops about “It’s not the destination, but the journey that makes the trip worthwhile.” I believe this. But the only way we can enjoy the journey is by first setting a goal. Afterall, we like to be rewarded at the end of our journey.

                The first quote, by Ken Chertow, has served me well since the summer before my junior year of high school. Over the course of my first two years of wrestling I’d compiled the steller record of…wait for it…15 wins and 20 losses. Oh yeah! I was a state champ in the making. I thought I was a lot better than I was. However, that wasn’t good enough for me. I was, and still am, competitive. I wanted to be better and win more matches than I lost.

                So the summer between my sophomore and junior years of high school I attended Ken Chertow’s Gold Medal Training Camp. And I learned that I had a long way to go before I could call myself a wrestler. I had my face ground into the mat. My body ached and it felt like my muscles were being torn from the bone. I tripped and fell on my face more than once. I have the distinct bragging right of being able to say that Olympic Bronze Medalist Nate Carr crossfaced me so hard that my lips were shredded for the duration of the week.

                Eventually I met the larger than life Ken Chertow. Coach Chertow was intense and extremely high energy. He breathed a confidence and determination into the wrestlers that he trained. I was no exception. Coach Chertow and I talked only once or twice that first camp, but he told me that I could become a good wrestler. But I needed to get stronger and work on my technique. He told me to set myself a goal for the upcoming season and stick to it. I had to dedicate my mind and body to reaching that goal.

                So I signed up for Beginner and Intermediate weight training for my gym classes that year in school. I hit the books hard every day—I was taking three Advanced Placement courses—and I went into the wrestling room every day after school to practice the techniques I’d learned at Ken’s camp.

                My goal for the year was to make it to the Regional Tournament. I’d wrestled a State Qualifier from Georgia at camp and I’d been so overmatched that I knew I had a long way to go. I pushed through some tough losses and a knee injury but went into Districts with a 4-3 record. I went 2-1 and took third place at Districts. I was going to Regionals. I’d reached my goal.

                I finished that season with an overall record of 7-6, having gone 1-2 at Regionals. But now my appetite was wetted and it was time to set a higher and more challenging goal.

                One thing that really helped me accomplish that and several other goals was writing them down. I’m currently reading the book The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. Why? I thought you’d never ask. I want to have money so I can support my wife to be, so we can have our own house, a family, send our kids to college, and yes, so I can have toys and go on killer climbing trips. But I digress.

                I read a statistic in Ramsey’s book about one study of Harvard graduates. In the study, three percent of people that wrote down their goals reached and exceeded them. This three percent of people also were financially more wealthy than the other 97 percent COMBINED.

                I believe it. I’ve set goals and not written them down and have fallen short. But I’ve also written down goals and gone above and beyond. The key is to write them down and have them visible. So hanging them on the fridge doesn’t do any good for me. But it might for you.

                For me I need to be constantly reminded of my goals. So I need to write them down and put them somewhere where I will read them, or someone else will remind me of them every day.

                This morning I saw on FaceBook that my friend, Terry, had posted his results of the Iron Man 70.3 that he’d just competed in. And he’d also set himself a goal of completing an Iron Man next year. I like Terry’s approach. So at the end of this post I’ve posted some basic goals of my own. But I don’t want you to just read my goals. I want you to set yourself some goals too.

                I want you to write down your goals and put them somewhere where you are going to look at them multiple times a day. On the fridge, microwave, in your wallet, hanging above the TV…I don’t care. But here’s the kicker. I want you to pick the goal that you most desire to reach and I want you to post it on FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram…whatever. You can even post to my FaceBook page


or Tweet at me


When you post to me on FaceBook, or Tweet at me, tell us your goal and when you plan to reach it. Then come back and let us know your progress. Set long and short term goals. And then start your journey on trying to reach those goals.

Spoiler Alert: Tomorrow’s blog post will be on how to reach our goals.


Kyle Coon Goals:

Financial:

Get a payed job by 09/01/2013.

Fitness:

Long Term:

Ride 30 miles in 1 hour by 08/05/2014.

Compete in a time trial.

Short Term:

Ride 25 miles in 1 hour by 02/05/2014.


Don’t let me forget about them now.

Until next time.


Kyle Coon



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Thursday, August 1, 2013

Thursday Thoughts: Visualization


Yesterday I posted on FaceBook the Words of Wisdom as being “If you can’t see yourself on top then you won’t get there.” What does this mean?

                I got this quote from the forever philosophical climbing partner of my friend Erik Weihenmayer. If you’ve read Erik’s book, or heard him talk, then you’ve heard him mention his friend Chris Morris. Chris and Erik were talking at Everest basecamp one day. Chris asked Erik if he thought he’d stand on top of Everest. And Erik said he wasn’t sure because they’d had such a difficult time so far. And Chris said, “Then you won’t.”

                We need to remember that if we want to get somewhere and to define our own success then we need to not just set a goal, but we need to see ourselves pushing along that path. We need to see ourselves accomplishing that goal. If we can’t see ourselves being successful then we won’t be.

                I often see this with clients in group exercise and spin. They’re all excited about the possibility of losing weight and getting in better shape. Then they jump on the bike or start an ab routine. Then suddenly they lose that vision. In my spin classes, especially, I try to paint a visual picture of the group riding along a road, up a hill, or sprinting down a highway. In my own personal workouts I take the visualization factor to the extreme.

                I love cycling. At one point I used to fanticize about competing in bicycle races. During the month of July, you can often find the Tour de France playing on our television. I watch and listen to the commentators talk about how hard it is to climb the Alps and Pyrenees. I read accounts of cyclists. Then, when it’s time for my workout, I put myself in that mindset. I visualize myself on the road in my cycling gear. I imagine my shoes clipped into the pedals turning between 90 and 100 RPMs. I feel the sweat rolling down my face and I see the black top of the road melting underneath the broiling sun. I feel the bite in my legs as the road begins to steepen. I see myself climbing up a mountainside on a bike. I feel the rush of adrenaline as my #1 adversary comes into view ahead of me. I feel that urge to get out of the saddle and push myself until my heart explodes out of my chest, until my legs burn and are so heavy it feels like I can’t turn the pedals anymore. And then I see my opponent slipping away and I feel the burst again.

                The funny thing is, I hardly ever get out on a road bike anymore. Most of the time I’m sitting on a stationary bike at our gym listening to music. My fiancĂ©e has been known to come up and tell me that the hour is almost up and I’ve nearly jumped out of my skin because I’m being jerked out of the zone.

                That’s what it takes. If you want to get to the top, then you have to see yourself getting there. You have to put yourself in the mindset you think you’d have when you reach your goal. You can’t just set a goal. You need to visualize yourself getting there. Immerse yourself in the mental game. Feel your heart pound, that sense of euphoria as you accomplish that goal. See the people around you. Hear what they’re going to say to you. Feel the pats on your back.

                We all have the ability to reach our goals. You have to have the vision and you have to experience it in 360 degrees. That’s what’s going to help you push yourself through the tough times. That’s what’s going to help you get through the monotony of doing the same or similar things over and over and over and over and over again.

                So give it a try. Pick a goal that you’ve set for yourself. Maybe you want to lose weight—a favorite goal for many during this “obesity epidemic.” Can you picture yourself having that sleak, toned, sexy body? Can you feel yourself move effortlessly up and down the stairs in your house? Can you hear your friends and family say “OMG! You’re looking amazing!”

                If you can then you’re well on your way to accomplishing your goal. You’ve still got some work to do. Nothing comes easily.

                So for now, just take a few minutes out of your day, sit back and visualize yourself reaching a goal. Get yourself pumped and fired up. Feel the energy course, hum and thrum  through your body. And when you can totally immerse yourself in that visual, let me know. Drop me a line on FaceBook or Tweet at me.



 

Keep an eye on my various Social Media for updates.

 

Until next time.

 

-Kyle

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

A 360 Degree Experience


A 360 Degree Experience

by Kyle Coon

 

The fiery red, orange and yellow sun sinking into a bank of clouds--staining them brilliant hues of pink and purple. Laying back on the sleeping pad and gazing at the velvety black of the night sky with the sweep of the Milky Way slashing between the mountain peaks. Standing atop a mountain and watching as the towering black thunderheads come racing toward you with the bright bluewhite bolts of lightning leaping between them. Quite often, these sights are what the photographer, the writer and the city dweller want to see and hear about. But when we lace up the hiking boots, strap on the pack, and set off into the backcountry, we're experiencing so much more.

I remember standing on the side of Mt Hood. And while Brad was describing the sunset to me I felt the wind rise. I felt the sting of little bits of snow hitting my cheeks. That night I heard and felt the wind begin to whip around the tent.

Working at a summer camp in Colorado, I remember rolling out my sleeping bag and pad out beneath the stars. Laying on my back I felt the warm glow of the fire as the temperature began to drop. I breathed deep through my nose and smelt the smoke rising from the fire, the sweetness of the pondarosa pines and aspens.

You don't have to be totally blind to experience the wilds in 360 degrees. When you close your eyes and think about your most memorable trip...what do you think of?We love the visual and pictorial gems that the backcountry offers. But when we think about those spectacular trips we think about how hard we worked to accomplish that goal. We think how our feet ached at the end of that 16 mile day climbing over 3000 feet of elevation. About how the backpack seemed to dig into our spine and the waist belt seemed to eat away at our flesh. How did the ground feel as you turned in the sleeping bag trying to find that comfy spot.

And yet when we pull out the camera or photo album those feelings and sensations aren't apparent. That crazy, cool, rad rockface with the colors of the rising sun flashing on it...go up and touch it. Trace the cracks and grooves. Feel the rock go from glassy smooth to rough and broken with jagged edges.

Those brilliantly colors leaves and clusters of wild berries...Press your nose to them and inhale. Pick a wild blackberry or strawberry and taste it. Let the texture and the juices roll over your tongue and slide down your throat.

Instead of peering through those binoculars or tromping around looking for that monkey critter in the treetops or trying to catch a glimpse of that hawk soaring thousands of feet above you...Sit on a rock or a log. Prop your pack behind you, close your eyes and open your ears. Listen to the chatter of the squirrels. Listen to the cry of that hawk as he wings overhead. Listen to the silence. The wind rustling through the grasses and the leaves, blowing over seemingly desolate landscapes.

The backcountry experience is so much more than that elusive photo or a beautiful view. We have six senses: sight, smell, sound, taste, touch and wonder. But the sense of wonder is only possible by using all of your first five. So the next time you're taking a walk in the woods, pause for a few minutes and close your eyes. Let your other senses broaden and find your sense of wonder in 360 degrees.

Saturday, May 4, 2013

You can't speed up a sunset.


You can't speed up a sunset.

 

It's been a crazy first third of 2013.  On January 1, I asked my girlfriend, Kailee Smith, to marry me.  I'm in the process of writing my memoir.  Three weeks ago, I spoke to a group of 140 communication students at the University of Central Florida Comm Day.  A couple of days ago I filled out the annual report for Sight Unseen Inc.  This week I graduate from the University of Central Florida with a B.A.  in Communication.  I'm in the midst of applying for a graduate program in nonprofit management.  I'm restless and want to start making money so I can support my future wife.  I want to get out west and climb a couple mountains.  My future father-in-law and I are planning to canoe the Suwannee River in July...

 

Needless to say, I've had a lot whirling through my mind the last few days.

 

There're a lot of times where I do feel overwhelmed and I feel the pressure.  Kailee's been a constant source of support and encouragement telling me to be patient and that everything will work out.

 

The other morning I remembered something that Mike McDonald, director of Sanborn Western Camps, said while I was working there two summers ago.  We were all sitting on the top of a rise known as Little Blue.  We were watching the sunset.  Mike said, "You can't speed up a sunset."

 

Thinking about it more than two years later I realize that watching a sunset is a lot like watching life.  We can prepare and ready ourselves for the future, but we can't speed it up and get there by taking shortcuts.  Just as my old chemistry teacher, Mr.  Sciullo, used to say "There's no path of least resistance."

 

During my talk to my fellow communication students I gave the advice to enjoy the journey of our lives.  I said that college isn't a destination, but a stop on our journey through life.

 

For the last few weeks and months, I've been worried about what I'm going to do, how I'm going to support myself, my future wife and our future family.  I guess I just need to take some of my own advice and enjoy the journey.  We all need to remember that "You can't speed up a sunset." So let’s enjoy and celebrate this time we have.

Friday, December 7, 2012

How Blindness Affects Social Learning Theory and Communication in the Family

by: Kyle Coon
University of Central Florida

Introduction:

In the 1960s, Albert Bandura ran a series of studies in which he videotaped children performing acts of violence to inanimate objects.  This occurred after the children had been shown a video of an adult performing similar acts of violence to a dummy/doll.  The children that imitated the violent acts did not stop at just mimicking the exact acts but rather enhanced the violence, performing harsher and more violent.  Children selected toys that were not typically meant to be instruments of violence and turned them into instruments of violence.  In short, Bandura's studies and observations led him to develop the Social Learning Theory of Aggression (Bandura).  This later evolved and became simply Social Learning Theory, sometimes referred to as Social Cognitive Learning Theory.

The theory has been applied to a whole host of topics e.g.  drug use, abuse, violence, etc.  In all cases the theory points toward developing children.  In this paper we are going to examine Social Learning Theory and how it can be applied when dealing with children and families dealing with a severe visual impairment and/or blindness.


Social Learning Theory:

Social Learning Theory posits that we learn from watching others (Bandura).  "The major framework of social cognitive learning theory can be found in its recognition of the reciprocity and interaction among cognitive, behavioral, environmental and physiological/affective influences" (Money).  Essentially, the actions of people in certain situations depend strongly upon the interaction among the various influences with a primary focus on social cognitive factors (Money).  The experiences of people guide them in the course of making decisions, what and what not to do.  Everyone has a variety of experiences from which they learn, and in many cases these experiences are from watching and observing the actions of others (Money).  "The different sources of influence" i.e.  cognitive, behavioral, environmental and physiological/affective influences "do not have to be of equal strength or occur simultaneously" (Money).

In no other group than are these influences more prevalent than in children.  As children grow and develop they watch and learn from their surroundings.  Their experiences and proximal social influence and interactions with their parents, teachers, peers, mass media and cultural institutions mold and shape how they view the world and in partcular how they should act in it (Money).  At first, childrens behavior is self-regulated by anticipated outcomes in the social environment (Money).  In other words, children act one way and then when they receive approval or disapproval from their social environment, i.e.  parents, teachers, peers, they act in the way they are expected.  Over time, "as children develop, their personal standards...  [and] conduct are based upon increasing experiences, social knowledge, and cognitive development" (Money).  Throughout the course of their development, the regulation of their behavior shifts from predominantly external stimuli and sanctions to a more "gradual substitution of internal mandates rooted in personal standards" (Money).

Once this shift from external stimuli to internal personal standards occurs self-efficacy plays a major function in the development (Money).  "Self efficacy is defined as an individual's beliefs about his or her ability to perform specific tasks" (Heng-Hsiang and Chou-Kang).  Learning behaviors are influenced by both outcome expectations and self efficacy (Heng-Hsiang and Chou-Kang).  Our self-efficacy affects our thinking patterns which can be a help or a hinderance (Money).  As a general rule, "the stronger the perceived self-efficacy the higher the goals individuals may set for themselves and the firmer the commitment to those goals" (Money).  What we think may influence the way we predict the occurrence of events and create the means for exercising control over events that affect ours and other persons' lives (Money).  People "generate hypotheses, develop weights, and integrate these data into complex rules, test judgments, [and] remember what works and what does not [work]" by drawing upon their general knowledge (Money).  A person's perceptions of their efficcacy will also influence the types of anticipatory scenarios that they construct within their mind (Money).  If he or she has a high sense of efficacy then they will visualize more successful scenarios that provide positive guides for future task performance (Money).  Likewise, those persons with a lower sense of self-efficacy then they will envision less positive or negative scenarios that provide less positive and negative guides for future task performance.

Now how does Social Learning Theory fit in with blindness, communication and the family? In the next section we will explore the idea that the first level of a child's social learning and education starts at home.  This is critical, especially when introducing an element such as blindness into the equation.


Blindness and Social Learning Theory:

Approximately 3 percent or more of the population is classified as blind or visually impaired (Mojab).  To be considered legally blind a "person [must have] a visual acuity of 20/200 or less or a visual field of 20 degrees or less in the better seeing eye" (Mojab).  Blindness has been portrayed on two complete opposite ends of the spectrum.  In some parts of the world blindness is seen as a gift where the person is almost worshipped as a saint or one who can connect with the supernatural, while in other parts of the world blindness is seen as a curse (Tenberken).  In places such as Tibet, blind people are shunned, spit upon and are thought to be possessed by demons (Tenberken).  In the United States, our culture has taught us to feel emotions such pity or just to be awkward around persons with physical or mental disabilities.  Typically pity is a feeling that suggests the person without the disability has a feeling of higher social status than the person with the disability (Mojab).  Awkwardness usually just means that the person has a lack of knowledge and just is ignorant and does not know how to act or what to say (Mojab).  But while the sighted world may feel awkward, unsure, pity, etc, those in the blind community often may experience similar feelings depending on their self-efficacy which stems from their social education as young children.

In 2005, Bishop, Hobson and Lee researched "Symbolic Play in Congenitally Blind Children".  They defined symbolic play as "pretending one object was another, attributing novel properties to an object, or pretending that an absent object was present" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  During the course of their research they came across several studies that had been performed in the 1970s through the 1990s that tried to explore if blindness affected the development of young children.  In an early study performed in the 1970s a young congenitally blind girl, Kathie, who was presented with a tub of water, a doll and a towel (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  Kathie was then encouraged to give the doll a bath (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  However, when Kathie touched the water she stepped into the tub and began chanting her own bath-time songs (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  Even when prompted to pretend the doll was the one taking the bath, Kathie did not partake in the game.  Kathie did not start the role of symbolic play--pretending the doll was a real person--until after she turned four, when she was more developed (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).

Symbolic play has been seen in sighted children as early as the age of 17 months (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  Other early studies showed blind children may be delayed in the ability to symbolize, very similar to that of children with autism (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  When provided with the opportunity for symbolic play, the blind children had a tendency to regress to simple repetitive activities and their play was an exact repetition of some event (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  In the studies, "although blind children [could] often say what their caregivers or other people [said] to them, they [were] less able to enact the role of someone else, and early attempts at role play [lackedgg the constant reversal of roles that is familiar in the play of sighted young children" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  However, some children made use of language and sounds as a means of expressing pretend/symbolic play (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).

Bishop, Hobson and Lee hypothesized that "blind children may be handicapped in developing creative symbolic play by virtue of their difficulty in seeing how other people relate to things and events in a shared world, and identifying with others' psychological orientation" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  "They are [also] handicapped in discovering how people ascribe new meanings to objects that have an alternative, "objective" meaning" and "the handicap is most severe for those who are also less strongly or affectively engaged with other people's attitudes to the world, for the reason that this further limits their propensity to identify with such attitudes to objects and events" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  The researchers realized that due to everyone being different there was a severe chance that symbolic play in blind children could be a result of their social ability.  So when they conducted their study they emphasized that "socially able children of the age and cognitive ability studied would have overcome much of the handicap they might have suffered...so that there would be few if any substantial differences between their symbolic play and that of matched sighted children" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  They also "predicted that when socially impaired blind children compared with socially able blind children of the same age and cognitive ability, the [socially impaired] group would show deficits in symbolic play" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  And "in some children, congenital blindness may constitute a contributory but not sufficient factor for the development of symbolic play deficits" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).

After surveying and receiving recommendations from teachers, Bishop, Hobson and Lee separated two groups of congenitally blind children, one considered socially able and the other more socially impaired and conducted two symbolic play exercises with each child.  The symbolic play exercise was then performed with same aged sighted children.  In the end, Bishop, Hobson and Lee determined that "congenitally blind children who were socially impaired were shown to have limitations in symbolic play when compared with language-matched congenitally blind children who were socially able" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).  They also concurred with earlier studies that "by middle childhood, symbolic play can develop to sophisticated levels in congenitally blind children who are socially more able" but that "lack of vision is not a barrier to developing fully elaborated symbolic play" (Bishop, Hobson and Lee).

In an indirect way, the study performed by Bishop, Hobson and Lee was a way of testing Social Learning Theory.  It can be assumed that the children that were considered more "socially able" had a higher degree of exposure and experience and were better socialized at home.  This ties directly in with Bandura's Social Learning Theory in that children learn from watching others (Bandura).  But it can be argued that these blind children in the study did not "watch" anybody perform symbolic or pretend play.  However, just because a blind child can not see does not mean that they do not pick up on what is going on around them.  But to ensure a proper start in preparing a blind child for later life it is essential for the parents of the child to teach and communicate effectively to their children what is right and wrong and to instill within them a high self-efficacy.


Communicating Social Learning to Blind Children:

Ed Weihenmayer is a former Marine attack pilot and Wall Street executive.  He is probably best known for being the business manager and Father of World Class Blind Athlete Erik Weihenmayer.  Erik Weihenmayer is world famous for being the first blind man to climb the Seven Summits--the tallest peak on each continent--including Mt Everest.  "What holds most blind people back from being the best they can be in life is their physical awkwardness, their discomfort or lack of confidence in their own body movement" said Weihenmayer in an article he wrote for the National Association of Parents of the Visually Impaired (Weihenmayer).  This "discomfort or lack of confidence" is manifested when a blind person clumsily enters a room in which they can not find a seat or eats sloppily with friends at a table or weakly shakes the hand of a person they first meet (Weihenmayer).  And again it is "evident when they walk awkwardly beside someone on a sidewalk or can not hind the door to get into their friend's car" (Weihenmayer).  Weihenmayer explains that all of these situations make it appear as though the blind person is hesitant, unsure or lacks confidence (Weihenmayer).  Not only does it accomplish these impressions but it also makes the person interacting with the blind or visually impaired person uncomfortable as well (Weihenmayer).  "Judgments are frequently made in the first 30 seconds of a situation [which can impeed] a blind person" (Weihenmayer).

Ed Weihenmayer points out that "we [can not] control the environment in which a blind person lives and operates" but "we can control the mobility of the blind person" by teaching them the necessary skills at home (Weihenmayer).  However, it is almost impossible to just sit a child down and explain to them that they need to be confident and have that high sense of self-efficacy.  This is where the communication from parent to child becomes more action oriented.

In 2002, Steve Barnes of the Orlando Sentinel wrote a brief article about a young ten year old blind rock climber from Jacksonville, Florida, named Kyle Coon, who was competing in a statewide series of rock climbing competitions.  After meeting Ed and Erik Weihenmayer after losing his sight at age six Coon took up rock climbing and with the encouragement of his family excelled.  Coon's Father said that the inspiration of meeting Erik Weihenmayer and the sport of rock climbing showed Kyle that his disability did not mean he could not do the things that other kids did (Barnes).  Kyle's Father said `he has become one very determined individual--he [does not] let too much stand in his way` (Barnes).

This is again an example of what Ed Weihenmayer discussed above about empowering blind children and teaching them to be confident with their body.  Ed Weihenmayer wrote that if he were to be a parent to another blind youngster then he would "aggressively urge the child into the pool to become a good swimmer" (Weihenmayer).  He would encourage sports such as wrestling, gymnastics, tumbling, dance and rock climbing (Weihenmayer).  What all these sports have in common are complete body control and awareness.

Essentially, when it comes to teaching social skills to blind children it is most effective to do so in a way that teaches them to be mobile and confident with their movements and in their own skin.  At the same time it is important to have effective verbal communication with blind children.  While sighted children can see, recognize and even imitate an angry, upset or happy/approving expression, it is more important that when parenting a blind child the parent vocalizes those emotions so that the child knows when he or she has received approval or disapproval for an action.  Rather than learning through what they see, blind children learn through what they hear, touch, smell and taste more than sighted children.  They rely on these other four senses to learn what is and is not socially appropriate, and it is up to the parents, teachers and peers of that child to be his or her eyes.
Although this method of socializing blind children seems simple enough, there are barriers that often comes up.  Apart from the stereotypes and perceptions of others placed upon blind people, possibly the biggest obstacle for the parents of the blind child is the protective instinct.  "As parents we want to protect our children" says Ed Weihenmayer and then adds "but we also know we need to let go" (Weihenmayer).  Weihenmayer then recounts an episode when his son Erik was about 11 or 12 years old.  Erik had brought another blind boy over to the house and the two boys went back through the woods behind the Weihenmayers house and to a rushing stream.  Erik, having been brought up in an athletic family and unafraid and completely aware of himself and his surroundings, jumped right in and started swimming around.  However, the other boy clung to the bank scared that if he were to go beneath the water he would become disoriented and not know which way was up and therefore he would drown (Weihenmayer).  The boy had been told this by his parents in order to protect him and keep him safe, but on the other hand Weihenmayer points out that the boy might still be alive today because of that protectiveness but he is more than likely no where close to what he potentially could be.

Weihenmayer then recollects standing at the base of the 3000 foot overhanging rockface of El Capitan as Erik attemfted to become the first blind man to reach the top.  He remarked to a passerby that his blind son was up there (Weihenmayer).  The woman said that Ed was a terrible parent and how she could not believe how a Father could ever let his blind son do something as dangerous as climbing a rockface (Weihenmayer).  Then a friend of Ed's said, about Erik, "he also skydives" (Weihenmayer).  Needless to say, the woman was a little angry and upset with Ed and went speeding off in her car (Weihenmayer).  It is reactions and over protectiveness like the woman's that hinder a person's--blind or sighted--potential.


Conclusion:

Within this paper we have explored what is Social Learning Theory.  In the simplest explanation, Social Learning Theory says that we learn from watching others (Bandura).  These observations and imitations of others can be both positive and/or negative especially with young impressionable children.  While Social Learning Theory can be applied across all age ranges it is most closely assigned to that of young children.  The home and family are the first levels of education for children.

We then examined how Social Learning Theory may affect children who are blind or visually impaired and concluded that no matter what, vision--or any other physical handicap--should not be a hinderance in the social education of children.  When it comes to blind children "academics are important and blindness skills--cane mobility, braille, computer--are essential but physical mobility and one's comfort with that mobility is just as important" (Weihenmayer).  Effective verbal communication between parents and children is key.  But the willingness to let go, if ever so slightly, of the overly protective instinct is also crucial.








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Monday, December 3, 2012

A Month For Thanks




I'm a huge sports fan, and I listen to a lot of Sports Talk Radio.  Quite often a discussion gets going about "what is the best sports month of the year?" Is it February because of the Superbowl, or is it March because of March Madness, October with college football, the NFL season in full swing and the World Series; or is it another month? While this is a fascinating topic, that isn't what I want to discuss here.  However, the month of the year is the reason for this posting.

The month of November is probably the most significant for me personally.  Why? Well, first and foremost is because I was born in the month of November and so were several members of my family (including my older sister, a cousin, aunt and a couple of close friends).  Secondly, because the month of November seems to have taken on a military appreciation feel.  We all recognize November 11 as a day to remember those brave men and women who have served, currently serve and who will serve this great country of ours.  They have sacrificed themselves in order to provide for us the many freedoms we all take for granted.

For my family, November 10 is also an important date on the calendar due to it being the birthday of the United States Marine Corps.  My Dad served as a Marine for six years and in the Corps he learned many values: honor, courage, commitment, and many others that would serve him and my Mom well as they dealt with raising a family and in particular dealing with the challenges of having a kid with cancer which would result in my going blind.  As an odd little coincidence, November also happens to be Retinoblastoma Awareness Month (the same childhood cancer that I had) and Retinoblastoma's Awareness color just so happens to be green (my favorite color).

My Dad raised his four children (three girls and me) strictly on those values that he learned in the Marines.  We learned the values of hard work, humility, honor, courage and so many more.  These values have kept me on a path that will hopefully lead to a successful life.  I also plan to eventually instill these same beliefs in my kids whenever that time may come.

Finally, November plays host to my favorite holiday on the calendar, Thanksgiving.  Okay, yes some of the reasons why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday is due to the fact that I love to stuff myself with turkey, mashed potatoes, corn, stuffing, and pumpkin and apple pie...but it is also a day of the year where we as a nation get to sit down and recognize all that we have and be thankful for it.  For me personally, I have so much to be thankful for.  I have had a very blessed and privileged life.  Overcoming cancer and excelling as a blind person, I have had the opportunity to travel and experience places and partake in activities that most people can only dream of.  However, I would never have been able to do all that I have done (and do what I hope to do in the future) without the love, support, and encouragement of my family, friends, teachers and mentors.

So in short, in this month of Thanksgiving let's remember to stop and be thankful for all we have.  Not just material things, but our peace of mind, the values that make us into the greatest nation on earth and especially the people with whom we choose to share our lives.

Thank you to our Veterans and current Service men and women for the sacrifices you and your families have made and make on a daily basis.  Thank you to my Mom and Dad for raising me to have the values that shape who I am today and shape me for the days ahead.  Thanks to my sisters and friends for never going easy on me and for always being there when I need you.  Thank you to the countless teachers and mentors who saw something in me and went the extra mile to make sure I could be successful.  Thank you to the Seeing Eye for providing me with a wonderful guide dog, companion and set of eyes.  And a special thanks to my wonderful girlfriend, Kailee, who keeps me sane and very happy as we forge on through life together.  I really don't know how she puts up with me on a daily basis.

We have so much to be thankful for, not just on Thanksgiving Day, not just in the month of November, but every day of the year.


Climb High!

Kyle